I have to say that one of the things that surprised me the most about motherhood was the vicious way in which women -especially mums (ironically enough) judge whatever decisions other mothers take.
If we choose to breastfeed, then we are spoiling our child and we are exhibitionists. If we bottle-feed we are not giving the best to our children. If we work, we are bad mums because we leave our kids with others but if a single mum is not working and living off the system, then of course she is a bad mum. If we co-sleep with our child we are raising clingy children, if we move our baby to their own room then we are neglecting them.
I am telling you whatever we do as mothers, there will be those mothers who will judge. Thankfully, not all mothers are like that. There are some, who know that there is always a backstory to any decision a mother takes.
However it angers me that another fellow mother took the time to post this message on the Facebook group ‘Ommijiet nghidu kelma flimkien’, claiming that she doesn’t understand all the ‘panic’ and ‘fuss’ that is being made ‘just’ because Ira gave birth to a baby. It really highlights how horrible we can be to one another. At a time of joy, someone decided it was ok to make Ira feel inadequate, because people are celebrating the birth of her baby.
So my message to any new mother, and especially to Ira because she is in the limelight and I am quite sure, judging from this lovely post and the comments that followed, that the spew of judgemental posts will be aplenty: no matter what you do, you will be judged So just do what you think is best for YOUR baby and YOUR family and don’t let other people’s opinions affect you in any way.